“The ghost of the past that haunts me” -when she opens up her heart.

(Note- my friend finally decided to pen down her terrible experiences growing up.) share if you think it is worthy. Thank you.

I am a very blessed person.I have an amazing life, wonderful friends,

the best possible husband and such a naughty darling for a kid. Yet my

childhood haunts me.People think, I had it all good being an only kid,

brought up in the middle east but it wasn’t so. My grandmother had

succeeded in drilling into my dad’s head that he would be less of a

man if he loved his wife or kid. To him, family was his mother,

siblings and their kids. Mom was simply his maid, and I, the maid’s

daughter.

Of course my mother was hurt, and this hurt, and anger at my dad, she

decided to send my way. To him, she was the perfect ‘parinitha’ (wife)…always

nodding her head in agreement no matter what he decided, never asking

for anything- not even the necessities. The more distance my dad

showed her, the more frustrations she would release on me. Being

pinched till the skin came off, being hit with anything in her arm’s

reach- wooden spoons, tennis racket, fly swatter, sandals, cable

wires, comb, hanger, metal ladle, rulers- anything.Any thing from

burning me to smearing me with fish innards. And i wasn’t allowed to

cry out loud or beg to stop. No matter how hard I tried, somewhere

around halfway into the torture session, i would beg and that was when

i would be thrown into a corner and kicked (with her slippers on) till

no energy was left in me to beg. I could really sense my unconditional

love for them disappear over time. I was always warned that if I dared

confess what happened then no one would ever love me. I strived hard

to please my parents, but they were never satisfied. My dad showered

expensive gifts on my cousins while i was given nothing. I believed it

was because of me- I was the bad egg. They never failed to insult me

in front of others. My talents in acting painting drawing clay

modeling etc were all discouraged. I was only allowed the academic

stuff and there too, inspite of being one of the best students, they

weren’t pleased. I was always told that i was a punishment to my

parents.Slowly it started sinking in me that i was unloved. I tried to

commit suicide a couple of times in between 6th – 8th grade. My

parents weren’t bothered. It broke me. I was constantly compared to

anyone and everyone. My mother would always say, she was going to ask

my friend to save some of her poop so i could feed on it and at least

be as worth as her poop. I was told that i was under a special

supervision and anyone who sat next to me was the teacher’s spy. I was

afraid to be friends with anyone because of the fear of having to eat

someone’s poop. I thought my mother was my friend. My mother loved me,

she was an overprotective parent until she would let loose the monster

in her. So I thought hostel and college was a new start and became

very close with my room mate.I didn’t believe my roommate when she

told me my mother called her and talked ill about me. My world came

crashing down when my roommate put her phone on speaker the next time

my mother called her. When I got amazing opportunities to work, my

parents denied it and forced me into a marriage. My dad never failed

to state how ugly i looked. Even a week before my engagement, my dad

asked me how I had guts to get up on the stage and stand next to a

handsome guy. I tried to call it off, but my then, fiance wouldn’t let

me. Nothing was my choice, not the sari, not the jewelry, nor how much

jewelry. After getting married, I was amazed as to how people buy

things of their like, how parents treated kids with respect and love

and most of all how being wanted makes you confident. I have gained a

lot of weight, but i have never felt more confident. I have had enough

confidence to go out and make friends. I have realized that I am worth

it. My parents still behave the same, my parents, always pointing out

how I am not a good mother, and my dad always trying to create fights

between my husband and me. Calling me names when my husband isn’t

around, treating me like a worthless piece of shit. But the difference

is I have decided to not let it bother me any longer. It is not easy,

when you have someone behind you, always reminding you, you are a

failure. I am still afraid to leave my dream , I am still waiting for

a good word from them which I know might not even come, but I am

fighting. I am fighting the feeling of being good for nothing, of

being someone no one can ever love. The only reason I wrote this is

because I want the people who have entered into the world of parenting out there to know how each thing you

say can contribute to your kid’s confidence. How those tender hearts

gets hurt and worst how certain incidents are branded into the brain.

I remember the pinching, beatings and kicking, right from when I

was around two years old to the time when my dad almost would have cut

my lips off,had my mother not intervened. Pain is difficult to forget,

be it physical or emotional. I need to forgive them to leave my past

behind but now that I have a kid of my own, it seems impossible. I

need to forget it all because the ghosts of my past surfaces once in a

while and creates issues in my smooth life now. A little patience you

show to your kid, might be their stepping stone to success , a little

praise might be their confidence.

-anon

PS:

( This is a guest post from one of my friend who wished to bring out her experiences she had while growing up)

Share if you think it needs to reach more people.

-Blogwithgokul

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The Tale Of Tipri- Lesser Known Places.

Have you ever been taken into a different world when someone narrates you about his life? If not, let me try telling you the tale of Tipri, A village in the Northern Himachel Pradesh.

By Gokul Vijayan

The engine of the boat started with a thump. His face seems to be filled with happiness. I was captivated by the beauty of the nature surrounding me across the Chamera Dam reservoir.The dam is situated in the northern Himachel Pradesh with a close proximity to the Jammu Kashmir. The Ravi river flows towards Pakistan through the reservoir. Visitors gets an opportunity to have a motor boat ride during the tourist season.

As the motor boat kept moving more deeper into the reservoir Mr Muneesh Kumar began his narration.

“There you see that mountain!” said he. Yes I replied.  That is the village Tipri.

As the boat seem to approach nearer to the village he said. The people of Tipri live a different life. This gave me a curiosity to know more. I asked upon excitement why do you say so?

People over there are so isolated from the mainland because they do  not have access to the town via road. The only way of transportation for them is through the boat in which you and I are travelling now.

Adults and school children travel to their workplaces and schools through this boat every morning and evening. The reservoir is approximately 70mtrs depth. Travelling daily across the reservoir puts up risk.

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70 Meters deep Chamera reservoir

The children sometimes have to walk upto 5Kms a day to reach school.

Don’t they have schools in Tipri? Yes there is an elementary school for classes till 5th grade but most of the time it remains closed due to absence of teachers.

Have you ever imagined how fortunate we are to have our school bus to pick us from the door step of our house?

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Can you see the steps which leads to the boat dock? Villagers board the boat from here to the mainland.

The most interesting fact that got my attention was the wedding ceremony of the villagers. Have you ever wondered how wedding would like to be in a boat?

Yes, the villagers in Tipri hire boats during the wedding ceremony to bring the Bride or Bridegroom to the village when we on the other hand opt for a BMW or Mercedes-Benz to show luxury, class and pride.

The entire boats would be decorated with beautiful flowers and garlands picked fresh to welcome the Bride/Bridegroom.

Opposite to the village Tipri across the reservoir is another mountain with dense forest in which wild animals like the bears, leopards, deers etc reside.

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Overlooking the Chamera Dam

I was lucky enough to spot a deer that came down to drink water from the reservoir. The scene was beautiful but unfortunately couldn’t click a picture.

They do not have access to proper medical facilities in the village, if at all they need to go to a good hospital they must reach the nearby town in Dalhousie or Chamba approx 15 Kms after waiting for quite a long time for the boat and then a hilly ride on a private rickety bus. Note a 15km ride is much longer since it  is  a high range.

Every time he kept saying his miseries I kept thinking again and again how fortunate we are? And still not happy! I found some villagers waving there hands at me with a smile on their face. Tourists means income, more income means more food to the family. I could read that on their faces from a far distance. Villages dependent daily on Roti and Dhal Chawal.

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Mr Muneesh Kumar- Has he kept narrating. 

I waved them back.As the winter falls by the first week of December. It starts snowing bringing the temperature down to minus degrees. Hey! take a moment and imagine the pictures above filled with snow?! How beautiful it could be. I took a moment to imagine as he kept saying.  Tipri and the surroundings of Chamera dam has a different face in winters he said. But poverty strikes then. The boating would not be allowed and hence the income through them stops. Sad.

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The landslide that happened for the first time two days ago in the nearby mountain. On right Tipri.

If a landslide like that happens to Tipri then the entire village would get vanished said he. They could be homeless too. They pray that it would not happen to them. It was huge.

He kept saying the life in Tipri so passionately. He kept asking me ‘Did you like the place? Sir’ a hundred times after every sentence. How on earth could I say I don’t! I loved it so much keeping the miseries apart.It was at the end that he told me that he belonged to Tipri too. He grew up, lived his entire life in Tipri. The government has given him the job as the boat driver.

My half an hour ride came to an end. But I really did not want it to get over. I have no clue where my imaginations went through in this half an hour of time. I imagined a whole different way of life. I thanked him for telling me about Tipri. I said bye with a hope that I will come back once again not just for a transit visit but to stay and experience Tipri for a couple of days.

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The Beauty!

I made sure that I would write a blog post so that more people would know about Tipri. To let people know that some live in a very different way in a very different parts of our country. Isn’t it true that each travel is an experience?. Yes, it is. As I walked away he kept staring over to the mountains for someone else to come and have a ride.

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Boat ride!
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Tipri, Google Image.

Thank You so much for reading. Share.

Love,

Gokul Vijayan

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Note: The boating would cost you around Rs 3000 for 10 members but its worth it!

A Stay At The Best 3-Star Luxury Hotel At Dalhousie – Hotel Mongas.

Dalhousie, A Hill-Station situated above the 5 hills in the district of Chamba, Himachel Pradesh. Often referred to as the Mini-Switzerland of India. The mild cold afternoons with rays of sun falling on to your skin, the chilly mornings and the opportunity to stroll out into to the Tibetan markets for shopping during evenings makes Dalhousie a perfect holiday destination for Families and Honeymooners.

Every vacation turns out to be a memorable one if you find a perfect place to stay especially when you are planning a trip with your family. Let me share my experience with this hotel that I found out in Dalhousie.

Hotel Mongas, Creatively furnished and maintained 3-Star hotel was truly a perfect choice.

The hotel resides on a beautiful location overlooking the hill station giving a magnificent view of Dalhousie once you step out into your balcony from your room.

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Way To Reception

The room is so cozy and comfortable with all the basic amenities including toiletries, blankets, coffee makers and hot water which are the facilities most travelers look for on trips to hill stations.

They have wide range of room categories starting from Deluxe rooms to Maharaja Family rooms & Honeymoon special rooms.

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My Attic with private sit-out Room

Once you wake up in the morning the view  room offers is astonishing, the mist coming down the mountain peaks is so magical to see.

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A View From My Balcony!

The walkaways of the hotel are crafted with flower hangings and are clean and well maintained adding to the aesthetic beauty.

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Walk ways

The hotel also arranges a musical evening which is amazing to listen while your sipping a hot chocolate or having a beer. Which no other hotels provide.

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Musical Night

The restaurant posses a multi continental cuisines ranging from South-Indian to Chinese on a buffet system so you can eat your heart out!

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The Restaurant

The hotel as got great accessibility to the Gandhi Chowk  Market and the Tibetan Market in a walk-able distance. Hence making the stay more convenient .

My overall ratings would be:

  • Comfort: 8.5/10
  • Value For Money: 8:5/10
  • Cleanliness: 9/10
  • Services: 9/10
  • Dinning: 9.5/10
  • Location: 10/10
  • WiFi: 8/10

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Ratings
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Great Ambiance
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Coffee, Mist and Cold a perfect combination.
For Contact: 

MONGAS
THE MALL
Gandhi Chowk, Dalhousie,
Himachal Pradesh,
Pin Code -176304
India

Contact Numbers:

+91-9418180000,+91-9418180101,+91-9418010927 ,+91-01899-240581

Reservations At:

info@hotelmongas.com
hotelmongas@gmail.com
reservations@hotelmongas.com

PS: The ratings are based on my personal experience.

Thanks,

Gokul Vijayan

(Travel Blogger)

 

Always Wanted To Be A Cabin Crew? Spice Jet Welcomes You!

 

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Credits: Blogwithgokul

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Who knows next time when you read my article you could be in must exotic place enjoying it’s serene beauty! Thank me then! 😉

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7 Things to Know Before You Travel to Rajasthan.


My trip to Rajasthan this June was scheduled to be 4 nights and 5 days. I have planned to move on to Delhi on the fifth day 4pm by train.

  • First and foremost to say, a 4 nights stay in Rajasthan is too short unfortunately i had to move on.

So the  first point to keep in mind is if you would like to explore the entire of Rajasthan make sure you plan atleast a 7 nights stay.

  •  The second point that to be taken care of is Rajasthan is a large state and the land area is typically vast compared to other states so travelling from one city to another is a concern so makes sure you hire a private taxi to move around the state unless your okay to travel in public transport which isn’nt much advanced.
  • Thirdly, i visited during the June which is definetly a big NO from me to travel. The best time to travel is from october to february when the climate is cool. Thank goodness it was raining scatterly during my visit otherwise i would i been cooked up in the 50+ degree scroching heat.
  • Fourth, please do carry a sun protection cream handy with you because you are going to need it very much along your journey. You will have no idea how much your gonna get tanned.
  • Fifth, compared to the southern states especially from where i come ie Kerala. The atmosphere in Rajasthan just don’t have much of a moisture in air that cause you to sweat but it can surely can make you dehydrate.So drink plenty of water and stay hydrated.
  • Sixth, although you would wish to visit Jaipur,Jodhpur,Jaisalmer,Udaipur in a streatch but let me tell you it is nearly impossible each one of then lies atleast a 6 hrs apart.So plan accordingly.

  • Seventh, this is important i would recommend you not to travel around at night especially when your taking the highways/freeways because car/bus hijacking is very common on roads where you would be stopped by blocking the road with stones and you will be looted. The police do not have much authority or power in here even if you file a complain.So be cautioned and travel. The days are longer in Rajasthan with sun completly down only at 8pm!!

In overall its a beautiful state with exotic fortress and palaces to see and rich in history and culture.Locals are conservative but yet friendly.

All the images are taken by me and the rights belongs to @blogwithgokul

My next blog on Udaipur- The city of Lakes.

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How Do I Manage To Get Cheap Air Tickets!!!!

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When it comes to travelling the safest and most convenient mode of transportation are air but there still remains a misconception that is it affordable to middle class? or is it just necessary to waste money on that luxury instead spend them for your other travel expenses?

In reality, only 10% of the Indian population only depend or rely on air travel which is very less compared to other countries as well. Well keeping this beliefs apart, when you do a little bit of research on air travel you will be shocked to know the truth.

Believe me I have traveled from Bangalore to Cochin for just Rs 699!! which is apparently lesser than catching a Volvo bus that takes you nearly 12 Hrs overnight.

What are the airlines you can travel on in India Domestically?

India’s aviation sector is growing up. Well, you have couples of airlines to choose from say Spice Jet,Indigo,Jet Airways,Air Pegasus,Indian Airlines,Vistara and Go Air.

My favorite ones are these three airlines, Air Asia comes first in the row because i find easy to book them online or through their app and easy and simple and then comes Spicejet and Jet Airways.

The another reason i would like to point out why i find Air Asia easy is because when i give a date to travel depending on my convinience they show the rates on the previous and on the next which eventually allows me to choose a flexible date with much lower rates if i want to.The airlines frequent flyers program as big shot which helps you to score more points and avail discount.

The spice jet on the other hand loves students they have a students discount offers which you can avail on the submission of your college identity cards at the time of check in.

If you like to exgravent your travel and would love to lift your experience a little above a budget airliner i would recommend Jet Airways.

They have a little more comfortable seats at an economy class and their premier seats are a luxury and the travel fee includes your food too.

Bon Appetite!!

So travel by air travel safe!

-Blogwithgokul

 

 

 

 

 

A Walk Through the Reminiscence of Travancore Empire- Vattakottai.

A Walk Through the Reminiscence of Travancore Empire- Vattakottai.
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A bright sunny Saturday morning. Beautiful day for an outing. Strangled in the four corners of the hostel room, we decided to venture out to breathe some fresh and unwind our self’s from frisky academics.
Well I said ‘we’ this time. I am perfectly not alone as usual. So by that I mean this is not my solo travelling. My besties and college mates are accompanying me on this trip. Let me name them Mathew,Joel,Gokul (not me! It’s Gokul S),Joshbin,Thomas,Antto,Akhil,Akshay,Sidhan and Jasper. Ok! These 10! We begin to figure the possible ways to find a good spot in Kanyakumari other than the beach itself.
We finally came to a conclusion. Yes, the trip advisor tells about this place called “Vattakottai”.
Why don’t we head towards that? A question popped from our Minds.
Immediately after the lunch we set out to explore the unexpected destination.
The Trip advisor gave a ranking of 11 on there site among Kanyakumari district which eventually gave a ray of hope to me.
By noon around 1:30 pm we begin our trip from our college campus at Chukankadai. We boarded the first bus to Vadessery bus stand.
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We arrived the bus stand after a 20 minutes ride. The road works and traffic caused delay to a certain level.
We actually had to wait for a certain amount of time to catch the bus the to Vattakottai as the schedules are very limited. Thank God! For us a bus was already their at the station ready for its departure.
By 2:30 pm we begin to continue our journey to Vattakotai Fort. The drive by was eventually beautiful with greenery and a well maintained road was a blessing.
45 minutes ride! And we finally got down at a small junction with a couple of shops on to welcome the tourists.
You will avail the bus service only till here, their you will see a board written Vattakotai.
The fort is 1 Km walk from the junction. The fort represents the glorious past of the Travancore dynasty. The fort build for the seaside defence and surveillance of the kingdom in the 18th century. Built strong by the granite rocks and a part of the fort extends to the sea which is now well maintained by the Indian archaeological department.
You are supposed to pay Rs 40 if you are arriving by a four wheeler and a Rs 20 for two wheeler at the check post.
We walked the 1 Km distance which was exhilarating, reached the entrance. “VATTAKOTTAI” welcomed the entrance.
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A groupie awaits here 😀
Then when entered the fort. Initially, I was mesmerised because I never expected the place to be well maintained like this. The lawns was perfectly cut short and neat with water sprinkles rotating watering the grass. You will find a water reserve in the centre of the ground which looks like a massive stone pool.
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You can feel the coolness in the wind desperately from the outside atmosphere.
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Gave a stroll through the lawns and there welcomes you a steep of stairs to a higher level, which I think would be a bit difficult to elders, perhaps it wouldn’t be a problem if you climb them slowly.
This will take you to the extended part of the fort into the sea.
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The view! Amazing or I am actually running out of words to describe. You can see the endless see as the wind gives a wooosh to your hair.
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The lawn here too is perfectly maintained. Which I actually appreciate. Far In distance you can see the wind mills lined and rotating adding beauty to the scene.
People from all over the world who visits Kanyakumari visits this place and is turning into each and everyone’s bucket list.
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The other interesting part is if your done with your photography sessions and if you wanted to have a dip in the sea. Then the perfect for you.The walk along the shore was so rejuvenating as our feet dug into the sand.
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We just had a couple of dips in the sea. You can feel the stones beneath the water so precautions needed.
There is a speciality for this beach too, It’s called the black sand beach.
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It’s clean and less populous. Precautions should always be taken since you won’t find any coast guards here. Do not venture deep into see, if you stick on to the shore you can have a wonderful time with your loved ones .Left the site by 5:30 to catch the bus at 6:15pm from the junction to Vadaserry stand. Note that the public buses are limited. Well, I had a great time in overall with my friends and one more thing apply a lot of sun screen because the sun can hit you straight after all you are in Kanyakumari, The southern most tip of India!!!

Things to note:
1) The timings from 10:00 am- 5:00 pm
2) Bring Sun screen
3) Safety first- no venture deep into the sea.
4) Keep the place clean
5) The best part- No entry fee!!!
Happy Travelling!!